Sigh......

Why does it happen almost all the time ?? I'm talking about last minute changes....

Like when there was a plan that was set few weeks ago with ur good friends, and then just few days before the day itself arrives.... somebody will voice out and the whole plan changes..... thats not so bad, at least everybody still had time to think about it, and change the location or maybe the date..... Tell me how would you feel, when u feel all prepared for the plan,then somebody or an outsider just brags about something else and changes the plan ??

If that's not bad enough, how bout this ?? How bout if u already made changes to the plan a few times, delaying it, so that everybody can attend, but then still somebody changes it after that ??
and that location is changed also because of the person, and not everybody agrees with it....

Lets say changing the plan from few days away to TODAY, and plan change is announced like FEW HOURS AWAY from the new plan ?? And the location maybe ?? If you're lucky, everybody agrees, but what if it does not ?? and then we change the date again.........

No matter how much i hate to say it, it really seems like it's happening every time when we have a plan... It's getting kinda irritating.... i mean, when the plan has been set, and if a particular person cannot attend and if it's okay with others, then is fine, but if you have changed it like few times, how would u think others would feel ?? i'm pretty sure they had to re-plan their schedule again...

I mean one can always find out how many people agreed to the date of plan, and if it's only the person himself or herself that could not attend it, they should be sporting enough to just back out and say they could not attend it, or the least they could do, if they really want to attend, is to change the plan they have on that day, or change their the time.... Or unless, everybody wants that person in the plan, then i have nothing to say...

I'm saying now that, those people that want to go but cannot make it, and it's not really like if they don't go, then few more will not go, why not just change their own time thats all, why do they need to change everybody's ?? Everybody had already agreed with the plan, the location, the place, the time... i hope they can understand how does the organizer feel... it is a type of pressure that builds up when asking others about the new suggested plan and fearing the fact that they get back complains or maybe scoldings from the others that have already had their plans for that day made....

And the pressure of having to tell that person that it cannot be changed, or rather, they dun wanna disappoint that person, it's really hard you know..... to say no, and then they will feel sorry for the person, and that because the organizer wants everybody to be able to attend the plan, and that this one could not attend, but then again, looking from outside, i would pity the organizer, because of one person and everything had to be re-planned, and then bear the scoldings or complains from the others that's in the plan...

Me, i would just back out just like what i normally do when i really cannot attend the plan on a particular day, and if they dun wanna change the date, i would just say fine and back out, i mean u all go ahead to enjoy urself, dun need to change the date because of me, i will not brag about it, coz the problem is from myself.... i could not change my plans, so i'm not gonna make others change their plan because of me....

Thats why even though i prefer to go out with my usual fun & crazy gang, but i would follow my other friends because they do not simply change the plan, they think about the others situation, and do not make a big fuss about it if they could not attend..... even if we are few, like 8 people only, we will try not to change the date, while the big group usually 13 or more, so what if 1 could not attend ?? unless is a very popular person among all of us, we still have quite a lot of people, it should be easier to just back out for the good of the whole group & plan....

I don't mean to say that they are not popular then it means they are not important..... but i really hope that they think about the situation & the organizer, and not just themselves, i think those people are pretty selfish.... that they think about themselves more than others in situation like this... and however much i want to tell them, i will not brag about it or make a very big fuss about it..... and because i know being direct towards those type of people will lead to some misunderstandings, so i will keep it to myself & only share with the people that understands me...